Dear Abby,

DEAR ABBY: How do you mend a broken heart? -- TEARS ON MY PILLOW


DEAR TEARS: By staying busy. By avoiding the "old reminders," which tend to make you moody and broody. By putting away or getting rid of the photographs, cards and gifts that make you sad -- unless you enjoy punishing yourself. And by staying in the present.

Venting - this has nothing to do with being positive

This is from an article I am reading....it just reminded me of my life......

“I just want to get to a place with someone where I can coast,” he says.

I say, “What do you mean, ‘coast’?”

He says, “You know, not go from crisis to crisis. Just kind of exist together.”

I say, “But you always have to evolve. You have to struggle through tough moments and hold tight during the good ones. Sometimes you can coast, but you can’t get to a place and then coast.”

He says, “You’ve misunderstood me. Of course, I think you need to evolve. I just mean not everything has to be such a struggle.”

I say, “I agree,” but for the rest of our relationship I will remember that word, “coast.” And every time he avoids an argument or refuses to discuss something with me, I will think, Why didn’t I coast out while I could?

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"Trust that nature will do the healing.  Know that the pain will pass, and, when it passes, you will be stronger, happier, more sensitive, and aware."

~Harold, Melba, & Peter